Last night, Pradnya, I, and our daughter Maitri went out to nearby restaurant for a dinner. As we were returning back, Pradnya asked if, she could get "magai paan". To this, I responded that it is too late and that we might not get it. Maitri who is just four and half year old, spontaneously reacted,"You will get it, there is nothing that you can not get!". Both Pradnya and I were startled with this confidence of our daughter. For a moment we were not sure how to react to this, as she was so very right - there is nothing impossible that you can not get.
Success is much like this. It is impossible not to achieve it, provided you have the killer instinct that our daughter exhibited last night. You need to have tremendous confidence on your belief, your dreams, your abilities, your dedication, your values, your hard work and smartness, your intelligence, and your faith in godly values. With this confidence, there is practically nothing that you can not achieve. Certainly, your journey to this success will not be as easy as you wish it to be. It is also possible that it take more time than you originally thought of. However, there is nothing impossible. This is why winners often say that in their dictionary there is no word called ïmpossible", as for them every thing is possible. Thus,
SUCCESS = NOTHING IMPOSSIBLE!
Sunday, April 29, 2007
Saturday, April 28, 2007
SUCCESS = CAPACITY TO APOLOGIZE
On the night of April 25, 2007, I was traveling from London to Mumbai in India’s one of the leading, privately owned airlines. I was quite tired, as earlier in the day I was in Copenhagen, and had forgotten to had my lunch, added to this was frustrating terminal transfer at the London’s Heathrow Airport. I wanted to eat something and sleep as soon as I can! While the food was being served, I was watching “Lage Raho Munnabhai” on the aircrafts entertainment system. Bappu was advising Munna, that he should apologize for any mistakes if he commit and at the same time forgive those who commit mistakes. I have just begun to enjoy the movie, but I was equally very hungry. Cabin crew who were serving food pass by me, without serving me anything. I thought she had forgotten or missed, so I called her twice, but she kept on ignoring. It was quite insulting, and I was fuming. Added to this was cabin in-charge was so busy that she could not respond to my call for nearly 30 minutes. I was utterly frustrated. By now my test buds have lost interest in having any food, physically as well psychologically, I felt terribly let down.
Cabin in-charge came in after a while, and kneeled down and very gracefully said ‘Sorry, Mr. Chavan! I understand there has been some goof-up by my cabin crew, and I am extremely sorry for the same. Though, I was fuming, and wanted to vent out my anger, her approach was so very natural that I restrained from venting my feelings out except expressed my displeasure, as this was happening to me for second consecutive time on this sector. I found her apology together with explanation so very sincere that; I was compelled to leave the incident behind. It is at that moment I realized that true and sincere apology do have tremendous power, that it can turn uncomfortable, disadvantageous situation to the best of ones benefit. Thus, true and sincere apology can in fact lead one to success. What would determine your success is your capability to seek sincere and true apology from the bottom of your heart.
However, most of the time, we are so biased with our own view points, that we never realize in quick succession of time that we had committed mistake. Thus, at times when we realize it is too late to seek an apology, and thus we never apologize for mistake that we do. But we forget that this behavior of ours not only discredit us, but also impact negatively on the sphere on our influence, potential support from those sincerely wish to help us. Thus, I often believe that quicker you apologize is better in the interest of damage control. In fact, it is in this sense that “Success is directly proportional to the degree of innocence to seek the apology”, when one commit the mistake. Thus,
SUCCESS = APOLOGISE WHEN YOU REALIZE THE MISTAKE!
Wednesday, April 25, 2007
SUCCESS = Listening
Majority of the individuals that we come across often talk so much that after a while you get bored - and they often repeat what they talked last time that you can practically utter the script before they open their mouth. Most of these people, I have observed have not moved ahead significantly in their life in terms of success. On the other hand I come across successful individuals who often listen, talk when it is necessary and talk what is required. Thus, I have believed that "listening"plays major role in ones success as the "talking"! There has to be very good balance between the both.
Many people often think that success is a passive activity. This is not quite true. Good listeners are always very active, with every part of their body engaged in the process, especially the brain. As Marshall Goldsmith stated in his book "What Got You Here Won't Get You There", good listeners do three things, (a) they think before they speak, (b) they listen with respect, and (c) they are always gauging their response by asking themselves, Ïs it worth it?". In fact in my opinion our success is directly proportional to our ability to be a good listener.
This I believe because, to be a good listener one needs a great discipline, especially when you are hearing what upsets you most. Keeping your mouth shut at that moment and continue to concentrate on every word that you listen requires tremendous mental control and discipline which are necessary elements for success. Thus, listening is a highly active, and decisive choice. Telling our mouth and brain not to do something is matter of equal discipline and self restrain as telling them to do it. If we can master this we turn into a good listener. For this to happen we need to think before we speak anything.
Another significant quality of successful persons which I have observed is that they listen to everyone with great respect. Contrary to common mass, when successful persons, when they listen they convey that "How important you are, and not how important he/she is?". This is why it makes them so sweet and adorable, that we get attracted to them, and in turn follow them.
You would have also observed that most successful persons speak "what is appropriate, what is needed". They never continue to speak a lot. This is because they often ask a question to themselves Ïs it worth it". I guess, this turns them to be good listeners and thus leads them to success. Since they as this question of Ïs it worth it"often they avoid speaking unnecessary and unwanted things, which might create confusion and misunderstandings. Further, this process leads them to speak rationally. Thus, I believe success is directly proportional to our ability to be good listener. Be a good listener, becuase,
SUCCESS = LISTENING
Many people often think that success is a passive activity. This is not quite true. Good listeners are always very active, with every part of their body engaged in the process, especially the brain. As Marshall Goldsmith stated in his book "What Got You Here Won't Get You There", good listeners do three things, (a) they think before they speak, (b) they listen with respect, and (c) they are always gauging their response by asking themselves, Ïs it worth it?". In fact in my opinion our success is directly proportional to our ability to be a good listener.
This I believe because, to be a good listener one needs a great discipline, especially when you are hearing what upsets you most. Keeping your mouth shut at that moment and continue to concentrate on every word that you listen requires tremendous mental control and discipline which are necessary elements for success. Thus, listening is a highly active, and decisive choice. Telling our mouth and brain not to do something is matter of equal discipline and self restrain as telling them to do it. If we can master this we turn into a good listener. For this to happen we need to think before we speak anything.
Another significant quality of successful persons which I have observed is that they listen to everyone with great respect. Contrary to common mass, when successful persons, when they listen they convey that "How important you are, and not how important he/she is?". This is why it makes them so sweet and adorable, that we get attracted to them, and in turn follow them.
You would have also observed that most successful persons speak "what is appropriate, what is needed". They never continue to speak a lot. This is because they often ask a question to themselves Ïs it worth it". I guess, this turns them to be good listeners and thus leads them to success. Since they as this question of Ïs it worth it"often they avoid speaking unnecessary and unwanted things, which might create confusion and misunderstandings. Further, this process leads them to speak rationally. Thus, I believe success is directly proportional to our ability to be good listener. Be a good listener, becuase,
SUCCESS = LISTENING
Saturday, April 21, 2007
SUCCESS = Using COMMON SENSE
On 19th April, I was travelling Mumbai - London by Jet Airways. I was upbeat - as I was upgraded to executive class - when I entered the aircraft came across Elizabeth - a cabin crew. During the course of flight she told me that she has seen me recently on the same sector couple of time, and qurried what do I do? I told her that I am a scientist. To which she spontaneously recated "You must be very brainy!!!". I said "Science is more than intelligence, is about using common sense, which ïs not often used by mass".
It is true that scientists use this uncommonly used "common sense"while exploring natural facts and principles. So they are often successful - similar to anyother successful individual in any other sphere of life. But since this basic "common sense"is not used by masses only few individuals emerge successful and victorious. It is not that we have not been taught that we need to use common sense, however, it is so very common that we often ignore using it. Thus, most of us inspite of knowing theory success, don't implement as we lack basic minimun common sense that theory alone do not lead to success - it calls for action. Thus,
SUCCESS = Using COMMON SENSE.
It is true that scientists use this uncommonly used "common sense"while exploring natural facts and principles. So they are often successful - similar to anyother successful individual in any other sphere of life. But since this basic "common sense"is not used by masses only few individuals emerge successful and victorious. It is not that we have not been taught that we need to use common sense, however, it is so very common that we often ignore using it. Thus, most of us inspite of knowing theory success, don't implement as we lack basic minimun common sense that theory alone do not lead to success - it calls for action. Thus,
SUCCESS = Using COMMON SENSE.
Wednesday, April 18, 2007
SUCCESS = ACTING NOW
Success is not a chance, but it is a matter of choice. However, many people do make choice and decide to succeed, however, after a while they complain that they were unlucky. I have been attempting to analyze the daily of these so called "unlucky" individuals. One thing, that I found in common in these individuals - though they decide to succeed, develop strategies, and evolve action plan after much of debate, they fail in one basic minimum requirement of success called "Acting NOW".
Over last 18 years, I have realized that we as commoners are very good at evolving strategies and plans, but worst implementors of their own plans. One of the major reason for this, I believe is we have habit of postponing things. We often say that I would start from tomorrow - however that tomorrow never occurs. On the other hand success needs that you act now - beiginning now would ensure that you have began implementation of action plans. If you continue to delay, you loose interst, thus if you wish to keep momentum and interest in achieving success, you need to ACT NOW. Thus,
SUCCESS = ACT NOW!
Over last 18 years, I have realized that we as commoners are very good at evolving strategies and plans, but worst implementors of their own plans. One of the major reason for this, I believe is we have habit of postponing things. We often say that I would start from tomorrow - however that tomorrow never occurs. On the other hand success needs that you act now - beiginning now would ensure that you have began implementation of action plans. If you continue to delay, you loose interst, thus if you wish to keep momentum and interest in achieving success, you need to ACT NOW. Thus,
SUCCESS = ACT NOW!
Saturday, April 7, 2007
SUCCESS = Realization of Purpose
Day Tuesday, April 3, 2007 - At 10.45 p.m. in the evening, I was heading back home together with my daughter with totally stressed out in all aspect - mentally, emotionally, physically, as well intellectually. I wanted to hit back to bed - however, received this call from my wife that I need to pick up packed food - as she is not feeling well. I managed to pull my car at food stalls in Chaturshing - ordered the food and waited till the carry on packages were handed over to me. I wanted to rush home. Maitri was not getting into the car - I became restless and with a spur of the moment, I just pushed her inside the car. She was upset and began crying. A security guard came up to me and spontaneously said "Sir! Why are your troubling your daughter? For whom are you working? What is a use of your wealth, if you cannot keep your loved ones happy?, Sir! introspect what is purpose of your life - it is not to trouble others but to facilitate your loved ones and rest of the society to benefit from your efforts. I am sorry Sir, I could not resist saying this, by seeing how harshly you were pushing your daughter in". I was shocked and mesmerized with his words of wisdom. For a moment I just felt that GOD offer such a realization of purpose to every individual on this earth, especially every parent, parent to be - as like me they need to realize the real purpose of life. Why are we working?, for whom are we strugging?, are our kids whom we love so much are benefitting?, is the nation and society at large is being benefitted?
The words of wisdom the security guard offered made me to think, and think on the issue of why most of us complain that inspite of efforts we are not successful. The answer lies in what the guard said "realizing the purpose of life", "realizing purpose of what we are doing". I strongly belive that success is directly proporsal to the degree of realization of purpose. More clear, undoubtful, and stronger the realization of purpose, bigger the success. Thus, it is important that instead on spending time, energy, and intellectuality blindly, we instrospect on for what purpose, and I am sure success would kiss us every now and then, and we would be able to cherish that success. Thus,
SUCCESS = REALIZATION OF PURPOSE
The words of wisdom the security guard offered made me to think, and think on the issue of why most of us complain that inspite of efforts we are not successful. The answer lies in what the guard said "realizing the purpose of life", "realizing purpose of what we are doing". I strongly belive that success is directly proporsal to the degree of realization of purpose. More clear, undoubtful, and stronger the realization of purpose, bigger the success. Thus, it is important that instead on spending time, energy, and intellectuality blindly, we instrospect on for what purpose, and I am sure success would kiss us every now and then, and we would be able to cherish that success. Thus,
SUCCESS = REALIZATION OF PURPOSE
Wednesday, April 4, 2007
SUCCESS = LOYALTY TO DREAMS
The unique characteristics of human being is its ability to dream and work towards these dreams. However, some people are more successful than others. Why few could achieve all their dreams and beyond that; at the same time others could never achieve their simplest dreams successfully. When I analyse these, one key difference that I noticed is degree of "loyalty".
Most of the time, we dream - just because we have ability to dream. Most of us do not put in their determination, and emotions towards these dreams. This results into them not being loyal to themselves and towards their dreams. This in simple words "they are not sincere to their dreams". Since, they are never sincere to all their wishes and its visulaizable form called 'dreams', they never draw gameplan and timeline to achieve it. Thus, without gameplan and timeline, they never have any motivation to work towards achieving them seriously. Thus, they never achieve. Reason, they never have loyalty to these dreams.
Contarary to above scenario, few who dream with determination, dedication often put in 110% of their loyalty into their dreams. Thus, any obstacle do not mind anything to them. They are easily able to walk through all conflicting situations, and rough terrian path, and from darkness to sunshine. Thus, I strongly believe "degree of success is directly proportional to the dgree of loyalty to the dreams".
SUCCESS = LOYALTY TO DREAMS!!!
Most of the time, we dream - just because we have ability to dream. Most of us do not put in their determination, and emotions towards these dreams. This results into them not being loyal to themselves and towards their dreams. This in simple words "they are not sincere to their dreams". Since, they are never sincere to all their wishes and its visulaizable form called 'dreams', they never draw gameplan and timeline to achieve it. Thus, without gameplan and timeline, they never have any motivation to work towards achieving them seriously. Thus, they never achieve. Reason, they never have loyalty to these dreams.
Contarary to above scenario, few who dream with determination, dedication often put in 110% of their loyalty into their dreams. Thus, any obstacle do not mind anything to them. They are easily able to walk through all conflicting situations, and rough terrian path, and from darkness to sunshine. Thus, I strongly believe "degree of success is directly proportional to the dgree of loyalty to the dreams".
SUCCESS = LOYALTY TO DREAMS!!!
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