SUCCESS = Listening

Majority of the individuals that we come across often talk so much that after a while you get bored - and they often repeat what they talked last time that you can practically utter the script before they open their mouth. Most of these people, I have observed have not moved ahead significantly in their life in terms of success. On the other hand I come across successful individuals who often listen, talk when it is necessary and talk what is required. Thus, I have believed that "listening"plays major role in ones success as the "talking"! There has to be very good balance between the both.

Many people often think that success is a passive activity. This is not quite true. Good listeners are always very active, with every part of their body engaged in the process, especially the brain. As Marshall Goldsmith stated in his book "What Got You Here Won't Get You There", good listeners do three things, (a) they think before they speak, (b) they listen with respect, and (c) they are always gauging their response by asking themselves, Ïs it worth it?". In fact in my opinion our success is directly proportional to our ability to be a good listener.

This I believe because, to be a good listener one needs a great discipline, especially when you are hearing what upsets you most. Keeping your mouth shut at that moment and continue to concentrate on every word that you listen requires tremendous mental control and discipline which are necessary elements for success. Thus, listening is a highly active, and decisive choice. Telling our mouth and brain not to do something is matter of equal discipline and self restrain as telling them to do it. If we can master this we turn into a good listener. For this to happen we need to think before we speak anything.

Another significant quality of successful persons which I have observed is that they listen to everyone with great respect. Contrary to common mass, when successful persons, when they listen they convey that "How important you are, and not how important he/she is?". This is why it makes them so sweet and adorable, that we get attracted to them, and in turn follow them.

You would have also observed that most successful persons speak "what is appropriate, what is needed". They never continue to speak a lot. This is because they often ask a question to themselves Ïs it worth it". I guess, this turns them to be good listeners and thus leads them to success. Since they as this question of Ïs it worth it"often they avoid speaking unnecessary and unwanted things, which might create confusion and misunderstandings. Further, this process leads them to speak rationally. Thus, I believe success is directly proportional to our ability to be good listener. Be a good listener, becuase,

SUCCESS = LISTENING